Your Marriage and your biggest problem.

For those I have talked to in recent months about this book I cant tell you enough how enjoyable it has been to go through this book. I am only part way into it as of this week but it is so rich in theology and its practical implications in your marriage. The issue of marriage and how you handle conflict within it is an area most of us must admit we need work in (to say the least - in regards to myself). What we must understand is that marriage is not primarily about us but first and foremost it is for God. The imagery that the Bible uses time and time again to show us that men have the position of Christ and the wife as the church is so rich. Both parties have the responsibility to one another of sacrificially giving ones all to each other and it works in beautiful harmony together. How often do I allow my own desires and wants to supersede those of my wife's.

Here is one of the lines in the book.....

"What we believe about God determines the quality of our marriage".

This once again comes to theology. For all those who think all theology does is divide well so be it. Theology is important in its outwork in our Christian life, marriage, parenting, and most of all our devotion to God. The more we understand God the more firm our foundation. Now our desire is not for division and strife but our desire is for the Glory of God and we glorify Him as we learn about Him within the word.

Here is a quote from R.C. Sproul

"No Christian can avoid theology. Every Christian is a theologian. Perhaps not a theologian in the technical or professional sense, but a theologian nevertheless. The issue for Christians is not whether we are going to be theologians but whether we are going to be good theologians or bad ones".

That is the heart of the issue. Your understanding of who we are, who God is and what the solution is.

God is Holy and Perfect, we are low and sinful in the full sense of the word, the Cross is the remedy. Our sinful condition shadows all our decisions, all our marriage problems and our bad choices. Understand that the biggest problem with marriage is our sinful conditions. Regardless of anyone else you have an obligation and should have the desire to war against pride, self righteous, anger, outburst, anything that glorifys your wants instead of Gods and honor your spouse. Pray for help and read your bible. God is faithful.